This training uses an empowerment model designed to give professionals a practical knowledge base in anger issues along with some effective strategies to engage these angry persons. This work was developed by Arlie Neskahi in response to repeated requests to assist schools, agency personnel and administrators to work with this "hard to reach" population. It has been delivered to inner city youth workers, anger management support group leaders, gang prevention coordinators, and a state school for the deaf. Recently I was contacted by a trainer in Sri Lanka working with Tsunami impacted communities and he found the model very useful in his work, see his testimonial below. The concepts and tools are meant to guide professionals in the development of their ongoing work in this extremely challenging area.

Originally aimed at angry youth, with the recent deadly terrorist activities within the US and the confrontation between government agencies and groups such as the Freemen, this training is being modified to reflect the anger that is pervasive within all age levels of our society. Please assist the author in modifying the materials that may still be targeting only youth in a way that is discriminatory. I still want to teach about youth specific issues, but with a new respect. They, as well as many others deemed in the past as; conduct-disordered, passive-aggressive, resistant, hostile, defiant, apathetic, incorrigible, etc. were only the canaries in the coal mine...

This training lays the foundation for educators or counselors wanting to implement anger resolution programs, conflict resolution, resiliency/strength-focused programming, pushout/dropout intervention, gang prevention/intervention, or violence prevention within their communities and schools.

In addition, over the past several years, individuals have found the materials to assist them in identifying unmet needs signaled by their anger and then to make choices to bring these needs into their lives and come to a new state of being and resolution. This process will almost certainly involve learning about grief, our response to loss or lack. This can be sudden or a long-term experience, such as historical trauma or the aftermath of abuse or neglect. .

Why Anger Resolution?

Topics to be covered may include:

Healthy aspects of anger; anger resolution vs. anger management/control; anger cycle model; victimization issues related to oppression, abuse and poverty; the relationship of anger to sadness and fear; identifying SADNESS or FEAR; identifying UNMET NEEDS; personal buttons and hooks; alternatives to power struggles; identifying the youth’s vision/agenda; aligning with resistance; behavior change without ‘brown-nosing or selling-out’, behavior change while maintaining personal, and cultural integrity; alliance-building; setting limits with youth while still maintaining a relationship; rebuilding hope and resiliency.

It is intended to train and provide specific knowledge and skills while providing the flexibility for the ongoing development of new strategies and materials. It has been trained by Arlie since 1993 with rave reviews.

Arlie answers some common questions.

Many providers have gone on to use these materials in their own professional service delivery. Others have added them to staff training modules.

Following are testimonials of which I am very proud...

 

I have used Arlie's curriculum on Anger Resolution with students in elementary, middle, and high school as well as with adults. It is the best material I have seen on this topic, and has worked beautifully every time. It is so effective that I asked Arlie's permission to teach it to graduate students in the School Counseling program at San Diego State University. It makes more sense to understand anger and to learn how to resolve it rather than just "manage" it.

Connie Messina, Director,
School Counseling Program
San Diego State University

 

I had the pleasure of utilizing Mr. Arlie Neskahi as a facilitator at a workshop that I conducted for Native Youth involved in the Criminal Justice system last week. He conducted a two day “Anger Resolution” workshop that was very successful with the young people ranging from ages 13 to 17 years of age.

Mr. Neskahi is an outstanding speaker and presenter. He is concise, interesting and challenges the students to think and respond to the issues at hand. He does all of this in a kind, respectful, committed manner. Many of the youth commented positively about his training and hated to see the session end. He is well organized and energetic with a great sense of humor.

I will not hesitate to utilize his skills again in the near future with my youth program.

Cheryl L. Dodson
Haida
Case Manager
United Indians of All Tribes Foundation

 

Thank you again for all the help you provided my nephew.

Your program provided a very sad, confused and angry young boy the tools to ensure he develops into an emotionally intelligent young man. If I started today and thanked you for the rest of my life. It would not be sufficent representation of my gratitude.

Jackie J.

 

I have used your material on Anger resolution with excellent activities to train primary school teachers (100), psychosocial program staff and volunteers (91) working with Tsunami and conflict affected communities and children, community members working as child protection committees (90), Child trainers (40) and now planning to train government officers(70) working with communities in child protection area. The material is very much real life situation based and appropriate emotional literacy tool. Particpants reflections were very much interesting. In the drawings they portrayed the actual situations, look like whenhe/she is angry. They were asked what their anger looks like and how they feel like it is. A person with red eyes, frowned face, ready to fight, hair straight up, depressed, crying, yelling, all sorts of reaction manifestations. In the anger cycle, they appreciated how a person could get out of the the cycle by working to address the unmet needs the value of assertiveness.

I realy appreciate that your materials are very much practically applicable and easy tools to help people understand the nature of anger and its effective resolutions.

Regarding using my reflections as testimonial to the effectiveness of your Anger Resolution materials, first I would like to express to you that I am very happy to have been in touch with you and it is a pleasure for me to be one among many other witnesses of efeectivenes of the material.

Girma Deressu
Training Coordinator
Terre des hommes(TDH)
Sri Lanka

 

Words alone cannot express my sincere gratitude for the training you provided to our staff last week on Anger Resolution.  It was by far the most powerful training we have ever had.  I believe that any organization or community who works with Native American people would benefit from your training.. Your style of incorporating traditional stories, spirituality and song with practical tools and wisdom made the training an invaluable learning experience.  I personally appreciated your level of enthusiasm and passion for your work and for our people. 

The staff came away with a deeper understanding of "anger" as it permeates the lives of the young ones we serve.  The staff enjoyed the practical exercises we did during the training, and acquired new skills for our daily interactions with the youth. 

I will definitely look to bring you back for further training. And I be will me more than happy to provide a reference for you, and highly recommend your training.

Jill La Pointe, MSW
Director of Clinical Services
La-ba-te-yah Youth Home

 

Any use of these materials is prohibited without written permission from the author. You may contact him at: 

Arlie Neskahi
Phone(206)781-3855
email: neskahi@earthlink.net

Email or call Arlie with questions, comments and for information on workshop pricing and availability.